Striving for perfection can be exhausting, and often comes at a toll to our personal relationships and our self-worth.

We’re sometimes driven by the fear of negative judgment and inadequacy and many times looking for acceptance from others.

We think to ourselves “if I can just be a little smarter, or perform better, or be thinner, then I will be happy, accepted, and seen.”

When we try to control parts of our life, we ignore and often lose sight of what we actually want, what our true values are and what makes us feel fulfilled. It’s possible to get back to a place where dissatisfaction and self-doubt are released. It’s also possible to harness perfectionism in an adaptive way.

I work with individuals in their 20s and 30s to help them break through control and perfection to grow towards their authentic selves.

As we explore the role that control and perfection play, we frequently dive into many parts that contribute to these patterns of behavior.

Some common session themes are: 

  • childhood trauma

  • religious trauma

  • eating disorders & body image

  • relationships: platonic and romantic

  • relationships with money

  • fear of failure 

  • athlete identity

  • boundaries

  • obsessive/anxious thoughts

  • depression & anxiety

  • core negative beliefs such as “I’m not good enough” or “I have to be in control”

I have specialized training in trauma work (EMDR certified) and eating disorders.

EMDR therapy is a type of therapy that allows us to reduce the intensity of past and present events and negative core beliefs that impact functioning. EMDR pairs this processing with bilateral stimulation (eye movements) and can be a helpful approach for many situations.

Learn more here: https://www.emdria.org/about-emdr-therapy/

When working with individuals on their relationships with food, exercise, and their bodies, I take an anti-diet, Health At Every Size (HAES), and intuitive eating approach.

I believe that everyone deserves to have a safe space and non-judgmental support to help them work towards self-acceptance. There are so many messages to sort through from childhood and society — whether these came from your “almond mom” or the daily stream of ad campaigns or social media we all face.

I’m here to work alongside you, to unpack this together.